Advice on dating a separated married man
On our 4th and 5th date he suddenly went very cold on me. He then informed me that he was going to see his wife to ‘sort things out and move on one way or the other’ and he hope I understood!
I was fine with that but, heard nothing for a few days so naturally I was a little anxious when he eventually text me.
When this man said to you he had to “sort things out,” that’s Man Speak for “I can’t see you any more”. He said he hoped you would understand, but you missed his meaning. Next time a man says he ‘s got to sort stuff out, say GOODBYE because that’s exactly what he means. I do encourage my clients to make themselves available and if you can’t make a date, then suggest another option. Personally, I can’t help but think he used you to make his wife jealous.
You said that perhaps you pushed him away by not being available when he wanted to see you. Otherwise why the heck would he ever tell her about you? I think he was hoping to get her back by dating you and this is a huge risk of dating a separated man.
Truthfully, if they’re smart they’ll recognize that you need time as well.
So as you’re contemplating your new freedom and desire for a new partner remember to make decisions wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.
Within a week of this he informed me that she was texting him constantly and putting him under a lot of pressure and he was feeling guilty.
And with the prevalence of cheating, a lot of times one partner has already begun a new relationship and the other partner is now seeking to get 'mine’. Relationships that begin out of desperation and without both people being emotionally healthy are going to bring a lot of additional problems into your life.